Today July 1st marks 41 days til surgery! We are almost at 5 weeks and 4 days out! It is closer than I thought it was! The other day I didn’t even realize we had already passed 6 weeks Pre-Op!
I have realized that many of the women that I know that have Endo rarely if ever have enjoyable intercourse with their partners. I have also noticed that lots of women blame themselves as to why they can not have sex. It saddens me that our bodies can control and prevent such important parts of our romantic relationships! On top of that is the shame and embarrassment that we hold in not wanting to talk about the painful side of what should be pleasurable!
So lately I have noticed that intimacy for my partner and I isn’t happening as much as we would like. For one it has been way too painful during intercourse since I have scarring on my ligaments and ovaries. Two because I have constant cramping in my uterus which I am hoping isn’t Adenomyosis! My partner gets really sad when we attempt to be intimate and have to quit because it hurts. She thinks it is her fault and that she is the reason I hurt but we both know different. Also sometimes I feel guilty because we can not have sex as often as I am sure she would like or need.
Just a few months ago I rarely ever had pain with sex unless it was a week before my periods was due. Other than that I never really noticed any discomfort let alone pain with penetration. I am starting to think that it is because my Endometriosis has been so active due to hormonal imbalances and it being untreated for 13 years now. Yes I have done birth control for 1.5 years when I was 15-16. However since I have only used pain management to treat my Endo. I am sure that this has let Endo grow deeper and implant and scar more places in my pelvic floor.
I have been looking into trying Pelvic Floor Therapy to help but I have not been able to find a clinic in Atlanta. So far all that helps is taking a pain killer before and after sex. But even then we still have to be extremely careful. We have started using a lubricant to help with friction discomfort and that does help a lot.
Anyone have suggestions for PFT? Or any other methods that could help us? Please feel free to leave a comment below or email me at lala.life.with.endo at gmail We would really appreciate it!